There is no 'The One'

I had a Bridget Jones moment this weekend as I was away from home and didn't have my stuff around me. 'My stuff' allows me to occupy myself with dowsing, researching and creating content and paraphernalia that is helpful for mapping the Universe.

With nothing to occupy me, it's easy for me to dwell and fall into unwanted patterns of behaviour like over indulging on junk food and going into Sloth mode. Now having time out is a good thing, I think we all deserve and break from perfection. However, staying in a gluttonous routine can reek havoc with moving in the right direction, and dwelling can be strangely addictive.

I share this with you because I want you appreciate how far I've come. From previous blogs you would have gaged that from birth I have struggled in life. I am the daughter of a man who didn't want me, bullied me into subservience and was my sole carer from the age of 13. I use the word carer loosely as he only showed kindness when he wanted something or for show. Behind closed doors I was a Cinderella. And because of the Cinderella story, I had unrealistic dreams that one day my knight in shining armour would come and save me and I've put myself on hold waiting for 'The One'.

But through my dwelling, which leads me to dowsing, I came to the stark realisation this weekend that 'The One' doesn't exist. Let me explain.....

If we go back a year or two, my guides started teaching me about Twin Flames or as they prefer to call it 'QI Match' (Quantum Intelligence). I'd heard about Twin Flames and listened to spiritual gurus who I thought were credible. Now I'm not saying that there are not elements of truth in what they say, but like all guru's and influencers, I like to dowse whether this is true for me.

Many of the common beliefs around Twin Flames are that they are 'The One', but each one has to fix itself in order to come into union. Spirit told me that I had a Twin Flame but I wasn't ready to be in union because I was in an unhealthy state. They also told me that they are our Match but our opposite Match. So what one lacks the other has in abundance and vice versa making up a whole.

With this in mind, I went on a mission to improve myself. I started to understand my co-dependency and narcissistic traits and slowly learnt how to let go of controlling others because I thought that being 'all heart' and sacrifice would be the saviour. Well it's not!

Being someone's saviour is stopping their growth. How can people possibly learn how to problem solve when you constantly pick up the slack? How can they get their reward when they don't get an opportunity to contribute? People thrive on challenge, they feel good about themselves when they have managed to overcome difficulties and produce something positive. Giving people the right space and time to learn and shine is the best thing you can do. I'm not suggesting not to be helpful or supportive, but over shadowing them because you think your way is better, doesn't allow them the glory of achievement.

My Twin Flame journey came to an abrupt holt one day 'GOD STOP TWINFLAME' my pendulum spelt out, and I was gutted. I searched and searched for answers of what I'd done wrong and was told 'NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU'. What? How could this be? I thought I wasn't good enough for them? And this is the thing. At the time we were a QI Match. Whilst opposite in our attribute, our 'Personality Spectrums' were similar.

By Personality Spectrum, I'm talking about personality traits all humans have. The Social Sciences have made a whole living out of so-called disorders but all they are is a set of personal ways of thinking that have become too extreme one way or the other.

For example, when I asked what percentage am I Narcissistic, my pendulum went to 70%. OUCH, that hurt. Me a narcissist, I thought I was a really nice person and I am. I then got out the list of what the so-called doctors have decided makes up a Narcissist and my pendulum started to get specific of where I under valued myself, that lead to me over excelling in others lives and being their 'go to' because I was always available. You see, narcissism has its roots in wanting to be the best. 'I'm not good enough so I need to prove that I'm needed at all costs and people can't cope without me'. It starts to manifest itself in over control, interfering and being perceived as a bit of a tyrant. And I put it to you, that you are, or have been at some point, someones narcissist.

This is one of many examples of 'Personality Disorders' but they all form similar personal traits. That's why disorders are sometimes hard to diagnose, because most people have a bit of everything on the spectrum to one degree or a other. See, it's only a disorder because we are not orderly in who we truly are. We either allow someone to push our buttons without speaking up for ourselves and become frustrated. Or we dismiss someone when they do speak up for themselves and devalue their experience. The disorder is being unable to safely and respectfully express our concerns and/or feel heard.

Anyway, getting back to my realisation that 'The One' doesn't exist.

During my moment of over indulgence I decided to have one last hit on crisps before Monday and went to get a midnight snack. Now my guides have helped train me in reducing my overall food intake by eating within a window of time. I mostly stick to this with the odd bit of 'time off' from pure nourishment and it's impact has been truly exceptional. My vitality is the greatest it's ever been and I'm looking the best I've ever looked. When they loosened the strict regime of a plant only based diet I got concerned and they spelt out 'YOU NOT ROLY POLY ANYMORE' 🤣🤣🤣 I just love their frankness!

So last night when I got up to get a snack I got a 'Buzz'. I get a mild electric shock when I know they want to speak to me and I called it a Buzz. So I went to my alphabet board and they spelt out 'YOU'RE RUINING YOUR LOOKS'. I asked if this was because I was eating 'out of hours' and got a YES.

I then got pissed off at them because they'd previously told me that the right man would love me dispite my weight. 'So why am I making all these sacrifices if the right man will love me anyway?' 'And you didn't fix my Twin Flame dispite all the work we'd done to get rid of his lowlife behaviour so he'd choose me'. (They'd taught me how to do a QI/QE grid to make plea's to the universe to change outcomes). 'QI/QE WORST WAY TO CHANGE THINGS' they spelt out. 'So are you saying it doesn't work?' YES. 'So why did you teach it to me?' 'YOU TRAINING'.

See, my grid was made up of crystals that were placed by my pendulum at the top in either the QE or QI part of the grid. And fossils were placed at the bottom. Each had a 'PLEA' to get rid of an unwanted thing and replace it with something positive. What they were teaching me was that no matter how hard you 'PLEA' to the Universe, the Universe will not do what you ask. To make change, you have to change. The Universe is Uni (One) Verse. And University (a city of one verse) is place to learn how to do things in accordance to 'One Rule'. But there are many ways to reach destinations/outcomes and it's the Cosmos that ultimately rules and won't give you a cheat.

'So why, if I can't change others decisions, am I making a sacrifice to stay slim? There's a possibility that the next man you think is a good match will no longer be a good match and I'll have to start again, and the same thing can happen again. I might spend the rest of my life lonely because you can't promise me 'The One'.

'GOOD LOOKS MORE OPTIONS' 'US HELP YOU PRY' 'PRY TO GET RID OF LOWLIFES' 'HELP PEOPLES LOOKS' 'HELP PEOPLE GET BETTER' 'BETTER PEOPLE GET BETTER PEOPLE' 'HELP BETTER DECISIONS'

So you see, 'The One' is your choice. You can have lots of Souls Mates or rather options in 'good fit' love, but you can only have one Twin Flame. And your Twin Flame is there to show you your healing. Can Twin Flames become a couple? YES. But don't be put your life on hold. Two flames together cause a burning hot furnace. Flames are on the planes of destruction. And they are there to destruct debree so you can start afresh.

You are here to learn how to make better choices. You are here to create heaven on earth. And that means getting rid of dead wood by knowing your value and raising yourself up like a like a Phoenix from the Ashes.